Overcome the stress of being perfect

 

Being perfect is a good thing, but struggling for being perfect leads to mental stress. Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth.It is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame. It’s a shield. Perfectionism is a twenty-ton shield that we carry around speculation it will secure us when the thing's keeping us from taking off.

Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. It softens the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life-paralysis. Life-paralysis refers to all of the opportunities we miss because we’re too afraid to put anything out in the world that could be imperfect.Sometimes we don't follow our hearts, because of our deep fear of failing, making mistakes, and disappointing others. It’s terrifying to risk when you’re a perfectionist.

For instance, If someone is going to face an interview he/she has to be confident, prepared, and skilled. But if the person is overthinking about to be perfect then there will be a fear of not fulfilling the expectations of the interviewer. Which leads to stress and anxiety.I am not saying that one should not prepare for the interview but I am saying that try to be who you are. However, be prepared to confront the troubles with loaded with mental fortitude and stop being perfect. Because no one is perfect.

To overcome perfectionism, we need to be able to acknowledge our vulnerabilities to the universal experiences of shame, judgment, and blame; develop shame resilience; and practice self-compassion. When we become more loving and compassionate with ourselves and we begin to practice shame resilience, we can embrace our imperfections. It is in the process of embracing our imperfections that we find our truest gifts: courage, compassion, and connection.

For those individuals coping with too much perfectionism, it can be a curse that takes the pleasure out of life and in some cases can lead to severe anxiety disorders. It also affects your family and friends. Perfectionism can have an enormous effects on relationships, sometimes even contributing to the end of a relationship. Sometimes perfectionists are intolerant of people who do things differently than they do. This may be especially problematic in close relationships with family members or partners, and it can lead to any number of consequences.

For example, if you are a perfectionist toward the people in your family, they may learn that the best way to please you is to not tell you things. They may assume that what you don’t know won’t hurt them. An inability to communicate honestly in a relationship can compromise the quality of that relationship. In some ways,if you want to be perfect you need to have control over your life. Perfectionists often strive to control the emotions, thoughts, behaviors, performances, and appearance of themselves and others. However, it’s impossible to have control over all aspects of your life. Furthermore, your attempts to have complete control either haven’t worked or lead to depression, anxiety, and eating disorders.

If you want to stay healthy, embrace your imperfections. Be happy with what you are. Acceptance plays a very important role here. Accept negative outcomes, rather than assuming they would be unmanageable. In recent years, a number of new treatments have been developed that teach people to accept their negative feelings and experiences, rather than trying to change them. Meditation also helps you to get rid of the stress and anxiety caused by perfectionism. And don't think too much about the people around you. There is a phase in Hindi that " Log kya sochenge? Agar yeh bhi tum sochoge to log kya sochenge. That means "What would people think? If you think this too, what will people think?"

 

Accept the imperfections and take care of your mental health. A beautiful thing is never trying to become a Mr.Perfect.